Hi! I was hoping you could check out my models. I have a friend who has been getting on my nerves recently and I want to understand why.

I have an inkling it’s because there is something about her that reminds me of me either now or when I was younger (she’s about 7 years younger than me). She seems a bit immature and eager to please and thinks she knows everything. It’s getting on my nerves! So when I plug it into the model, my result, of course, are that I am trying too hard. Can you think of other results or do these make sense?

I’m feeling VERY attached to the fact that she DOES need to calm down though. Can they both be true? We both do! 🙂

C: C*****
T: she tries too hard
F: irritated
A: short, defensive, annoyed, cut her off
R: I’m trying too hard

C: C*****
T: she needs to calm down
F: irritated
A: short, defensive, annoyed, cut her off
R: I need to calm down

C: C***** said “my therapist said this and my therapist said that”
T: she thinks she has all the answers
F: annoyed
A: get defensive, snap back, let her get under my skin
R: I think I have all the answers

Thanks!