My husband and I have been married for 10 years. Since the very beginning, there have been money issues on his end, and I am the main earner of the family. This in itself is something I am unhappy with because when we first met, he promised to go back to school to get his GED so he could have more opportunities in employment. He didn’t do that, unfortunately.

Because of this, we have struggled over the years financially until my business took off last year.

But this hasn’t helped with HIS money issues, and it puts a lot of pressure on me to produce. Although he gives me the bulk of his paycheck each time he gets paid, he doesn’t do a good job managing what he keeps for himself, and he’ll sometimes ask me for money between paychecks.

I noticed recently when I asked him to pick up an item at the grocery store, and gave him my debit card to pay for it, he also got cashback off my card without asking or letting me know afterwards. It wasn’t until I confronted him later that evening that he “confessed” to taking money out of my account.

I was upset because this isn’t the first time I’ve entrusted him with my personal money and he was dishonest. I’m considering separating because of this and other money issues.

Here’s the biggest thought I’m struggling with: I don’t want to create wealth in my business because I don’t want him to take half of my wealth if we divorce.

I’ve noticed how I’ve been holding myself back because of this thought. Here’s my model:

C: My husband took money from my personal account w/o asking
T: I don’t want to create wealth in my business because I don’t want him to take half of my wealth if we divorce.
F: Stagnant
A: Not working to the fullest potential in my business. Not marketing as much as I could. Not seeking new private clients. Only working with current clients for the time being.
R: Very little financial increase in my business

I would like help in creating an intentional model for this situation and anything else that would be helpful. Thank you!