My Kids Don’t Act As They Should

I’m realizing that many things that my kids do trigger the thought “They aren’t doing it right/the way they should”

Here’s a model:

C-Kids are picking up sticks
T-They should be doing it differently
A-yell at them to do it a certain way. Interrupt the process of picking up the yard. Tell them the consequences that will happen if they don’t do it the way I want.
R-I get mad at myself for treating them that way – I don’t let them do things their way.

Can you please help me process this? Thank you!