I’m working on letting my sister be who she is, accepting her as a human, understanding that she is right about a disagreement she had with my husband because she believes she’s right. He can be right too. When I think about what I want in a friend and a sister she isn’t it. A friend is kind, supportive, someone I can talk to who doesn’t judge me. I know I am that to her, except I do judge her for the way she treats me and others. I want to feel peace with letting her live her life and me living mine. Our lives don’t have to interconnect but it feels like they have to.
C. No communication with sister
T. Sisters are supposed to have relationships/be friends
F. Sad, angry
A. Ruminate, take no action, try to figure out how I want relationship with sister to look
R. No relationship/friendship with sister. Relationship is in my mind. Relationship is negative because I have negative thoughts about her behaviors.
C. No communication with sister. But why? When I interact with her I open myself up to criticism, drama, judgement.
F. I need some examples of feelings that might be applicable:
R. I am living a life that is fulfilling, full of people who love and support me. People will act like 50/50 humans and that’s ok.
Struggling with my intentional model.