Not sure if this is a boundary violation and how I was supposed to handle it


My ex used to expect me to clean his house, and would get super mad and frustrated Bc I wouldn’t.

In the other hand I had a super intense job and accasionally would even deligate cleaning of my own house.
At times when I would clean his place just to make him happy I would find myself super resentful and thinking how rediculous this is. I would expect him to acknowledge my efforts but of course it was never what I expected.

What would’ve been the best way to go about it? Just say “no” and let him be frustrated about it?