Old belief system

When going through ‘Feeling Better’ I had to fill in a worksheet about ‘owning your thoughts’.  The following question came up: What do you currently blame in your life? Why? My answer is: My childhood (the fact my mum didn’t have enough time for me), hence I don’t feel good enough, which has affected all my life.

Next question is: If you owned all the things that have happened in your life, what would that mean for you? Would anything feel different?
My answer is: It feels scary, as I “can’t” blame anyone/anything. It feels like I’ve wasted time, as I’ve used the “not being enough” as a reason for not getting more done. There’s a lot of self judgment or fear of judgement in there.  Can you help me shift this?