People Pleasing or Not?

Hi coaches, quick doubt: how do we tell the difference between people pleasing = giving people what they want to be more liked thus manipulating them to like us versus (random example) “I want to go to the cinema, my girlfriend wants to stay home, I choose to put my interest on the side because I value her desires and I like to be a person who does things for the others?”

How do we draw the line between the two?  Thanks