“Positive” models?

Do you all recommend doing models for “positive” feelings as well as models on thoughts we want to change?

I ask because of the recent scholar on the relationships call who was having thoughts and feelings about her worthiness based on her husband not taking her coat to hang up at the restaurant. I can relate.

So, when my husband *does* take my coat, compliment me, etc., I choose to feel worthy.

C: Husband says “you look pretty”
T: I love hearing that
F: Connected
A: Am affectionate, open
R: Feel connected to him

That would be the “positive” model. I like the thought and the result.

But, I guess the point is to not make the absence of that C mean the opposite?