Hi amazing coaches,

I’m currently practicing how to take responsibility for my own feelings rather than believing that words and actions of others cause them. Here’s today’s example:

Unintentional:
C what mother wrote
T she tries to put pressure on me and manipulate me
F outraged
A be angry, dramatize her words, disregard her
R no trust in her whatsoever, be narrow-minded
(which proves that I only see that she tries to manipulate me)

Intentional:
C what mother wrote
T I decide what I make her words mean
F self-conscious, strong
A read her words without outrage, share my point of view without outrage
R trust in me that I’m in charge of how I think and feel, trust in her that she does the same for herself

Do these models make sense? I still feel outrage when she sends a new message. I try my intentional thought as a mantra before I read her words and it seems to reduce drama at least. Any suggestions what I can do to improve this?

Thank you!