I have uncovered a belief and I can’t seem to unbelieve it: I’m not allowed to have an opinion about myself that no one else has.

I can’t love myself if no one else does. I can’t think I’m beautiful if no one else does. I can’t think I’m smart if no one else does. I can’t think I’m good at something if no one else does. More than that — I don’t want to be a person who thinks they’re good at something when they’re not. I don’t want to be a person who thinks they’re beautiful if they’re not.

I can see how this is not serving me at all, and keeping me stuck, and sad, and even depressed. I have grown a lot and changed many of my circimstances while dragging these beliefs around with me. I don’t think I can go any further with them. But I don’t feel that it’s “right” to let them go.