Thoughts about my wife

I have really bad thoughts about my wife. I feel like I am a victim of her words, actions, thoughts etc. My really bad thoughts when they get going make me want to be away from her. She then attacks me and chases me. While I am running away she says mean and bad things about me that sit with me for a while that causes more bad thoughts, feelings, and actions on my part and me wanting to be away. Can you help?