Understanding the model better

Hi Brooke,
I find that I often get my C line and my T line mixed up. More accurately, my C line often is a T. For example:
C: Friend makes mean teasing remarks
T: He’s so mean
F: Dislike
A: Interact less with him
R: Distance in friendship
Is this a correct model or should the C line be just “Friend” and the T is “his remarks are mean and belittling”?
Here’s the intentional model:
C: Friend
T: He seems to think he’s funny
F: sympathetic
A: not respond, but also not distant myself
R: Friendship remains unchanged.
I’m not quite satisfied with the intentional model because I want to discourage the friend from making mean teasing remarks. I know I’m trying to change the circumstance, but what if I want to change my C to be my R? R being friend stop making mean remarks? How about R being not be friends with people who are mean? I’m fine with that one as well. Hope this is not too confusing.