I have been doing a ton of work on my habit of validation seeking. I know that conceptually, in order to feel validated it starts with my thoughts – someone else can’t make me feel that way.
I had a conversation with my boss yesterday that should have resulted in feeling validated. But I didn’t attach those thoughts to it for some reason. I went home feeling sad again and I couldn’t really understand why. I thought it was so interesting that she complimented me (in her very subtle way) and I still didn’t receive the happy hit that I crave from validation.
What tips can you offer that help with creating thoughts of validation from within? How do you separate that from feelings of conceit?