Values and Worthiness

Hi coaches, 

I feel I need some clarification around values and worthiness.

If values are the things that matter to us in our lives, that we consider important, of value, and if we relate these values to some qualities or actions that we see in ourselves and others, then how can worthiness (meaning how worthy, how valuable something or someone is) be completely detached from how much we or other people we align to those values?

It seems to me unconditional worthiness is a lovely concept that I like to remind myself, but at the end of the day, if I want to have values, so a judgment of what’s good and not good for me, then it seems to me that these values inevitably put conditions to worthiness.

Thanks for helping me clarify this.