What is the result when we allow?

When we change our actions from reaction to allowance what is our new result? for example:

C: Making a Video
T: I might forget to say something important.
F: Anxiety
A: Spin in horrible thoughts A: Allow
R: forget everything R: ?
C: child draws on wall
T: she shouldn’t have done that
F: mad
A: yell, punish, complain all day A: Allow
R: I’m behaving how I shouldn’t R: ?