When an intentional thought doesn’t feel right

Yesterday, my mother called me to tell me that she was worried that my sister was going to kill herself. My husband asked me what we were talking about. I told him about the situation and he said “ And she has a good job. This is the reason I have no faith in people in fancy government jobs”

I have done a model.

C Husband says words about my sister
T He doesn’t understand and is judgmental
F annoyed
A I don’t talk to my husband any more about the situation. I hide to talk to my mum on the phone so he can’t hear me.
R I feel disconnected from my husband

I know I can’t change my husband’s thoughts and actions. So how do I come to an intentional model when I don’t want to feel positive about the things he says?