Yesterday, my mother called me to tell me that she was worried that my sister was going to kill herself. My husband asked me what we were talking about. I told him about the situation and he said “ And she has a good job. This is the reason I have no faith in people in fancy government jobs”

I have done a model.

C Husband says words about my sister
T He doesn’t understand and is judgmental
F annoyed
A I don’t talk to my husband any more about the situation. I hide to talk to my mum on the phone so he can’t hear me.
R I feel disconnected from my husband

I know I can’t change my husband’s thoughts and actions. So how do I come to an intentional model when I don’t want to feel positive about the things he says?