Hi there,

We have a family trip coming up that I’m excited about. I noticed a worry popping into my head that my husband will somehow spoil it. There is a story I have around his attitude as as “Debbie Downer”. I can recall many vacations where I’d be enjoying a moment and he’d spoil it because he’s either upset about something or is feeling low. This story is so strong that on our recent weekend getaway for Mother’s Day, I got so upset at him when I thought he was about to spiral into one of his “DD” moments only to realize that that was not the case. I was the one upset and spoiled that morning.

How do I see him in a better light? How do I stop myself from creating the very thing I don’t want to happen? How to I stay patient, calm and even joyful around him?