Aggression, Disrespectful tone from my husband

My husband used to yell at me over small things. Untidy kitchen, stuff on the counter etc. He has since made alot of effort in order to stop venting his aggression on me. Having said that he uses aggressive speech and a disrespectful tone towards me. I’ve been working on a thought ” its possible for his mood not to affect mine” in these circumstances. I’m using a bridging thought because I will not be affected by his mood doesn’t feel true. But I’m at a cross road, this may be a situation where I need to put in a boundary as opposed to accept aggression and disrespectful speech. I understand that his speech and tone of voice are not circumstances. Any help guidance you could give me would be great.