Allowing feelings/chasm between thoughts and desires

So yesterday I asked for feedback about how I’m having trouble believing my intentional thoughts and the advice was to spend more time in the unintentional model and allow those feelings. How do I do this?

There is such a chasm between my unintentional and intentional thoughts. There is really a strong thought pattern in my head of feeling lazy, not wanting to work hard, feeling like I’m better than others on the inside so who cares about the outside, etc… that is in such contrast to my desire to lose weight…I’m having trouble reconciling the two…why do my thoughts seem to be so different from my desires?