Allowing urges

Every night I wake up in the middle of the night and shop on my phone. This has been going on for over a year. I just got coached on it and I am struggling to allow the urges. I noticed I think when I’m attempting to allow the feelings, how long do I need to feel this discomfort? I know the answer is to feel and to be willing to feel, continually. I’m struggling with allowing the urges. Shopping feels good in the moment but it is impacting my financial goals.

C: Shopping
T: I can’t stop
F: Out of control
A: Shop!!
R: More proof I can’t stop

C: Shopping
T: I shouldn’t have this problem
F: Shame
A: Hide the problem, don’t talk about it, probably buffer with shopping
R: Continue to have the problem?