Blame for Addictions

Hi Brooke,
Last night I was talking to my husband about your recent podcast on blame. He is in recovery for alcohol addiction-goes to AA meetings a lot and is a firm believer in the 12 Step program. Although I am grateful for his recovery, I often do not agree with the strictness of the 12 step program. An example of this is when I was talking with him about blame & assigning someone else responsibility for our feelings. He said the first step is to admit they are powerless over alcohol and I think this is not a good thought to have as it is blaming alcohol, not letting them take responsibility and it gives alcohol power.We had quite a long discussion on this, am grateful we both can share our thoughts with each other but I am just curious what your thoughts on this are.
Thanks so much,