Boundaries


You’ve mentioned before that boundaries are really about someone coming into your space, then it is appropriate to make a boundary. I was wondering if this situation would be an appropriate place to make a boundary: My husband says he wants to have sex. I do not. I’ve learned in the past that when I feel guilty for not giving him sex and then doing it anyways, I felt resentful towards him, like I was forced into doing it, like I had no choice because of his feelings. I’ve done a model on this and decided that I can choose not to have sex with him, that he is responsible for his own feelings about this. So when I tell him I don’t want to have sex, he usually continues to ask, and beg, and bargain. Would this be an appropriate boundary? “If you continue to ask me for sex, I will leave the room.”