My Mother-In-Law and I get along OK, but I often feel disconnected from her when we talk and are around each other. It’s been this way for years.

She’s visiting us soon in our new home and made a comment on the day of our closing that we can only get excited about our home after we have the deed or when it’s fully paid for. I don’t exactly feel very welcoming to her right now and want to clean up my thoughts about our relationship to begin fostering feelings of connection or maybe even feeling ok about not experiencing connection.

I’ll likely work through a thought ladder on this one. I believe that I could start with forgiving her, forgiving myself for not feeling connected and drop the judgment toward the both of us.

How can I proceed?