Hi Brooke

I may be having a breakthrough with my eating soon, I hope so
I’ve been a secret “after dinner binger” all my life that has kept me minimally 40-60 pounds overweight
Sometimes I’d purge

I am following a 3 meal a day protocol, no sugar no flour- that is fine-my issue is still the binging
I am also working out and I love getting stronger

Here is my ladder of thoughts
would like to hear your thoughts
it always helps to write to you

Unintentional
C-urge to eat hagen-daz chocolate or almond swiss vanilla ice cream
T-I have to have the ice cream now, i need it to help me be happy, there is no other happiness for me, i need it to be OK
F-desperate
A- drive in the car to get the ice cream (maybe more than one container, maybe add chocolate fudge cake, maybe add pie)
R-eat the ice cream (+others) now, satisfy the craving, feel happy temporarily (altho full and sick and weight gain)

Intentional
C-urge to eat hagen-daz chocolate or almond swiss vanilla ice cream
T- It is possible that I have a big misunderstanding around my dire need to satisfy my urges and who I am as a person, and my willingness to experience the fullness of life
F- curiosity
A-I study the relationship of urges and identity and who i want to become
R-I learn new way to relate to urges that have nothing to do with who I am as a person

C-urge to eat hagen-daz chocolate or almond swiss vanilla ice cream
T- I do not need dopamine hits in order to be OK, I can handle any feeling
F- strong
A-readiness to handle feelings
R-I handle any feeling

C-urge to eat hagen-daz chocolate or almond swiss vanilla ice cream
T- I am willing to experience a deeper and fuller meaning of life rather than satisfy urges
F-clarity
A-I seek to learn new ways to deal with urges so that fulfilling them is no longer the centerpiece of my life
R-I learn new ways to deal with urges

C-urge to eat hagen-daz chocolate or almond swiss vanilla ice cream
T-I choose to no longer identify with urges or give urges any meaning
F-a profound tiny spark of something new
A-read more, think more, about this profound possibility and all it may mean, develop and follow thru on a specific action for allowing and moving beyond urges
R-mentally free of giving meaning to urges (or associated behaviors and weight gain)

C-urge to eat hagen-daz chocolate or almond swiss vanilla ice cream
T-I am committed to allowing urges without answering them
F-committed
A-I allow the urges
R-I become free of the urges (and lose weight)

C- deeper happiness and meaning
T-I am now creating deeper happiness and meaning over addictive habits
F-profoundly moved
A-I consciously choose my values, fix thought errors, and develop ways I can contribute in the world
R-I am on the road to deeper happiness and meaning