Day 4 question – may

The question asked today is when do I love this person and when do I try and withhold love for this person. Im doing hubby. Examples: when he continously comes to bed at 2am i feel uncared about and i feel anger (secondary emotion) both stemming from thought “he doesnt think about me”. I don’t see that im withholding love – just having another (albeit unoleasant) emotion. I dont know how to skillfully attend to thought “he doesnt care about me” and address situatuon with love. !! Thank you! Laura