De-cluttering for others

Ok, I’m confused. How does this month’s work tie in with past work? If we love someone unconditionally and don’t need to change them to manage our own minds, why on earth do we need them to throw out their stuff?? My partner doesn’t want to throw out his stuff. His response to me is (while taking from my arms his fishing gear I found in the back room) “You do your stuff, I do mine. I don’t want to answer your questions.”. At least this made me laugh out loud and love him even more for the self contained and unapologetic cave man that he is! But for my sake – how does this work? What do I do now?