I just wanted to share an experience that I had at work! I demonstrated to myself how much I’ve changed my automatic thinking. I was presenting my audit findings in a meeting with a manager (Andi) and her boss. The meeting got ugly on Andi’s part with her interrupting me, talking down to me and making false accusations, but I didn’t even notice, I just continued to discuss what I needed to discuss. Her boss was present during the meeting to witness this and afterward said to me, “I can’t believe she talks to you like that. I’m going to have a talk with her about that because that’s not okay.” I was like, “Yeah, that’s what she does.” Andi has expressed in the past that I hate her, but by me keeping my thinking focused on what I was there to do, I feel like I demonstrated that it isn’t anything to do with hate, I’m just doing my job. It also made her look terrible in front of her boss.

With people like this manager, I used to do the thought work and models before and after dealing with them and would engage with their drama (and wish I could slap the B), but this meeting and interaction yesterday, I didn’t do any intentional thought work before, my automatic thinking was just on point!