I have been feeling a lot of disappointment lately over a hobby I normally enjoy, gardening. I spend a lot of time working on my garden, and I think my disappointment comes from the fact that it doesn’t look the way I want it to look.

I can list a whole series of disappointments: Certain areas of the garden didn’t grow the way I wanted them to, some plants I purchased turned out to be something other than what was labeled, rabbits eat some of the plants, I bought landscaping rock and now think it is the wrong color, and that’s not easy or cheap to change.

I want to change my thoughts because I’m tired of feeling disappointed all the time. I want to enjoy my hobby again. I just don’t like the way the garden looks and that is important to me.

Here is the model I came up with:

C: I have a garden, rabbits ate some plants, some plants were different from how they were labeled, some plants didn’t grow
T: This didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to, I don’t like it
F: Disappointed
A: Notice everything I don’t like, feel frustrated, feel helpless and trapped, don’t think of solutions
R: I am disappointed in myself.

I’ve tried to come up with other thoughts:
This is a work in progress, and I will eventually get it to how I want it to be. That still feels discouraging

I appreciate any assistance. Thanks!