follow up on my question about new thoughts for “they don’t respect me etc”

just want to say, I found the answer to my question

it is my primitive brain looking for ways to stay safe with people and getting emotionally triggered is a programmed response

I have the misunderstanding that I still have emotional needs of a young child

with this knowledge I can go the next step and have great compassion for all human beings

we have social needs, we do need to love and we need to be of value.