Hi Brooke,
I accidentally posted a question too early about my daughter breaking up with her boyfriend. You answered it and explained to me I could have the good-feeling-thoughts that I was having about their relationship now. I understand the concept you are teaching me here, but I am having so much difficulties with carrying this action out.
Let me elaborate on what has been happening since she broke up with her boyfriend… She has been going out every night, and drinking and meeting up with random guys. I am so afraid for her safety. And I can’t help but think of how things might have been if she stayed with her boyfriend. That guy was amazing. He has a wonderful family. He is focused and driven to make something of his life, and the best part is he loves my daughter and treats her so well. It’s not just me that feels that way, our whole family feels that way.
I can tell myself that none of this is about me and she has to make her own decisions. I also know I will drive a wedge between us if I tell her how I feel. I have been trying different models and even allowing my emotions, but I keep coming back to the thoughts I have already mentioned.
I don’t know what to do with myself. I don’t know how to get out of this thought loop.
I did a tutoring call on this and discovered I should not be resisting but allowing my emotions. I have been doing this, but I can’t seem to move on.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this…
Thanks,
Tracey