I’ve seen coaching calls with Brooke where she suggests changing your attitude about your current Circumstance before changing it. I’ve done that with a lot of things and to be honest, I have allowed it to slow down my progress on goals I still want.
I want to lose about 25lbs. In the past, I was motivated to lose weight because I thought doing so would create the Feeling of confidence and eliminate the Feeling of unworthiness. I now feel confident in my body and worthy no matter my weight because I changed my Thoughts about myself. Now I am having trouble accessing motivation to continue to lose weight.
I want to start my own business as a coach. In the past, I was motivated to start my own business because I thought changing my job would create the Feeling of fulfillment and eliminate the Feeling of pathetic-ness. I now feel fulfilled by my current job and I no longer feel pathetic, because I changed my Thoughts about my current job. Now I am having trouble accessing motivation to create a business.
I want to pay off my $12k of CC debt. In the past, I was motivated to pay off my debt because I thought it would create the Feeling of peace and eliminate the Feeling of anxiety. I now feel at peace with my debt and I no longer feel anxious about it, because I changed my Thoughts about the debt. Now I am having trouble accessing motivation to pay it off.
In the past, I was motivated by trying to escape the emotions I thought the Circumstances were causing. Now that I know the Circumstances NEVER cause our feelings, I have yet to find the motivation to work towards reaching these goals.
Why do I want to lose more fat and gain more muscle?
Why do I want to become a coach?
Why do I want to pay off my debt?
These are the questions I ask myself. I like my answers, but they alone must not be strong enough to create Feelings that trigger goal-oriented Actions. What to do from here?
Additionally, Brooke suggests trying to access the feelings now that you think you’ll have once you’ve reached your goal. Isn’t the end goal (Result) just a neutral Circumstance in a new Model?!? If I can feel those feelings now without the Circumstance actually changing, then how do you access the desire to want something different? Aren’t we motivated to take action by our feelings? The Model suggests that we are.