So now fast forward all these years later (8 to be exact) and the things that she says and do are now painting a very different picture. My thoughts used to be, “she has lived by herself all these years and it will take some time for her to adjust to living with someone else”. But, the only thing that has changed in these years are my thoughts, I now think, “she is going to continue to do these things over and over and it does not matter who she is living with”. And I think this is where boundaries and consequences come into play. As I do my thought work concerning happiness, I will also have to figure out this boundary thing and determine where to draw the lines in the proverbial sand.