How can I create an intentional model around this? How can I respond in the moment I am feeling triggered? I tend to want to shut down or attack back to the person raising their voice at me. I know this isn’t effective at all.

C – Raising of the voice
T – How dare this person raise their voice at me. It is unprofessional.
F – Angry, disrespected
A – I get defensive and raise my voice too
R – I judge this person for their behavior and continue to justify my feelings