How to choose results

Hi Brooke, I’m a vip and listened to every podcast but feel like I have a very basic question! I am trying to move away from actions that are based on feelings of fear and scarcity. I think that almost all of my actions come from wanting to feel better – but I know you teach not to act because of the way we think it will make us feel. I still haven’t quite grasped what to replace my habitual way of choosing what results/actions to pick. I hope that makes sense!