Hello Brooke!

Please look at my models below:

C: Social events
T: I am a terrible small talker
F: Inadequate; boring
A: overcompensate and talk too much
R: I am boring

C: Social Events
T: I can show up as my best self
F: Peace, calm, joy
A: Show up happy/ present/mindful
R: I am my best self

I am having a difficult time categorizing my feelings for the UIM into either indulgent or needing to allow.

If they are indulgent- I have the power to just stop thinking these negative thoughts about myself
But I can also see that they could be unwanted and I should allow as a compassionate observer.
So interested in your thoughts and direction

Many thanks