How to use the model to help daughter

My daughter is a young adult, working and living independently in another state. She is distressed about her place in life–unexpected to connect with coworkers, every attempt to grow professionally has been thwarted while others get promoted, no community of like-minded friends. She is also trying to find work back in NYC where she loves but nothing has panned out. She’s frustrated and feeling like nothing is working no matter how much she tries and puts herself out there.

I tried to use the model with her, but she feels like I just don’t understand. I tell her that all her misery is coming from the thoughts she has, but the constant rejection and fruitless attempts make it hard for her to change those thoughts.

Please help–now mom here is getting frustrated and feeling helpless!