Husband’s mental health

Hi Brooke,

I’d like to get some advice on how to deal with my husband. He struggles with shame/low self esteem on a daily basis, and it affects all areas of his life. He owns his own business, and his negative mindset spills over to how he treats his clients and customers, and ultimately, his bottom line. His mindset also affects our marriage, because I am often trying to build him back up emotionally, or his is lashing out at me as a result of his thinking (I try not to take it personally.)

But Brooke, I’m tired. I’m tired of being on this rollercoaster. I struggle with wanting him to just “fix himself”, get his mind right, and move on — but I know it’s not fair of me to ask that or expect that of him. I have enough to deal with regarding my own thinking — I get that.

How should I respond when he gets into these spirals? Just let it go and support him no matter what? I need your help. Thanks, Brooke.