My assumption is that laddering is breaking down thoughts into multiple models and then the last is the useful model???

C- straightening up house
T- I never get to sit down
E-frustrated
A- scream at my husband, act irrational, blame him for not being more helpful
R- angry, sad, drained

next thought recognizing what the bigger issue is

C- I have tendinitis in my arms for a long time and its painful
T- I can’t stand this pain anymore
E- frustration
A- feel the feeling, cry, feel it in my facial neuralgia stomach and head
R- emotionally drained

C – remind husband about painful tendinitis
T- I want him to validate my pain.
E- want compassion
A- I stop talking to him
R- He doesn’t respond and I feel sad and alone

C- Husband didn’t respond to me
T- Why doesn’t he sympathize for me that I’m n pain?
E- emotionally drained
A- Tell him my thoughts
R- He tells me he knows they hurt, tries to make jokes to get me in a better mood. I let it go knowing he just isn’t responding the way I would like him to. Acceptance