Knowing when to feel the feels or change the thought.


I listened to the replay of Molly Claire’s Live Coaching call yesterday and a key theme was witnessing our thoughts/feelings without judgment, and not jumping in to “fix it.” I love this concept and found myself thinking about times where I jump to fix the problem vs. just being with the discomfort.

For example, when I’m disappointed, I tend to jump to gratitude. I know this is OK sometimes, but I also know that it might be good to sit with the difficult emotions before changing my model.

So, my question is, when do you know it’s time to change your model? When will I know it’s time to realize a story isn’t serving me vs. sitting in the ick. I’m sure the answer depends on the specifics of the scenario, but it would be helpful to have some general guideposts.