Thanks so much for helping me sort out the urge model. Here is a new one and I want to make sure I get it:

Default Model
C: Conversation with photograph and I have an urge
T: I’m going to stick to the protocol
F: Resistance
A: I think about the things I should have said to her. I criticize myself for not being able to explain clearly my deception with the photos in a way that would help her work on them. I do not tell her that I did not understand there was a studio option. I power to resist the urge. Distract myself with work.
R: I add resistance on top of an urge

Intentional Model
C: Conversation with photograph and I have an urge
T: I am having an urge
F: Urge
A: I talk to my brain to allow the urge. I use the tools I have. I do not add judgment or other emotions. I sit in it, I breathe in it, and tell myself: This is an urge. I can handle this.
R: I allow the urge.