It was suggested “there was likely a bit of a story and that my T was one of the lead thoughts” and recommended I explore this a little bit further so that I did.

This is a doozy and thankfully through thought work I can recognize this for what it is and not shame the crap out of myself for this model.

C: adult daughter
T: she’s making me look bad (ouch…..thanks for that one brain)
F: embarrassed
A: make excuses for her, compare her to other kids her age and where they’re at, try to compensate for her “deficiencies”, avoid certain situations that might make me uncomfortable, judge her and myself, try to get her to conform to the “norm” (stay off the judgment radar)
R: I’m the mean girl/make myself look bad(????)

I’m not thinking this result is a true reflection of the thought so hoping for some input here.

IM:
C: adult daughter
T: she’s living her life exactly how she chooses which is exactly what I taught her to do
F: pride
A: accept her for her as she is with no expectations other than to be her authentic self, don’t wallow in compare/despair thinking, let other people think/feel however they choose, have her back/be supportive/her cheerleader, take off the “doing it all wrong” goggles, see her as a capable adult women living her life for herself
R: ??

Struggle with the R here??

I have to acknowledge that digging deeper here with this model was a bit of an “ah ha” moment for me. Without judgment or shame I recognize my fear of being seen as lacking or less than in some way has brought to light my ego/unmanaged mind is a lot like Regina George in the movie Mean Girls. Having that awareness feels like a weight has been lifted and I oddly feel at peace. Now the real work begins where I manage my mind around the discomfort of other peoples perceived perceptions/opinions. Thanks coaches for all your continued help!