My Mom is jealous of me/or the relationship I have with my Dad. Yesterday he came over because he have great anxiety and depression. He is visiting from out of town and had run out of his sleep medication and hadn’t slept in 3 days. I talked with him for a few hours and found a doctor he could get into.

My mom was running grandchildren around, so I said I could take my Dad. When she saw me again she said “Don’t you think his wife should be the one taking him to the doctor?” I said that she could, I just thought she was busy so I was trying to help out. She said, “Just do it – you know where it is.”

Later that night my Mom wouldn’t talk to my Dad all evening until he asked her what the problem was and she said, “You talk to our daughter better than me. And I should have been the one to take you to the Doctor.” Now my Dad thinks he can’t come over and talk with me anymore because it will make my Mom upset with him. He is now very depressed and having sever anxiety again.

My Mom has a very strong, bold, authoritarian personality. I realize Mom is choosing her thoughts, and my Dad is choosing to stay home to not make my mom upset. But I feel angry that my Mom seems to be acting so illogical. I would think she would want me to help out and have a good relationship with my Dad, but I guess she is really insecure? I guess I want the current outcome to be different than it is – not sure how to make peace with it?

C. Mom says to Dad, “You talk to our daughter better than me. And I should have been the one to take you to the Doctor.”
T. Mom doesn’t want Dad to have a good relationship with me
F. Angry
A. I tried talking with my Dad and teaching him that he didn’t cause Mom to feel upset and that it is ok to still come over and talk with me – we can still have a relationship even if Mom feels mad about it. I don’t talk to Mom and would like to avoid her because I don’t have anything nice to say to her right now.
R. I don’t have a good relationship with ……..?