My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years. We’ve decided to live together. So I will be selling my home and moving up to his place. I’m excited and a little nervous at the same time. I’m nervous about selling my home and some of my furniture and things, since we will have duplicates and his home isn’t large enough to accommodate everything.
I think I’m nervous because it is a big change and a lot of work. I know that I will do a great job getting everything handled. I’m excited to live with him because we enjoy many of the same things (hiking, biking, yoga, cooking, etc.) and I like the person I am when I’m around him (he’s a good balance to my risk adverse nature). The challenge that I’m having is the problem I’ve created for myself. In the past I would share things about him with my friends or family when I would get annoyed. Unfortunately I didn’t find Brooke’s podcast and her Scholars training until after I had inappropriately confided and not used my own self coaching. I have stopped that behavior quite some time ago, but some of my friends and family are expressing concerns about me moving in with him and dragging out every story I shared with them.
I’m not the type of person who tracks every perceived slight, but I have found I have some friends and family that keep a database of this type of stuff. I want to feel excited and confident about my decision, but I think there is a part of me that is struggling with wanting my friends and family to feel excited too or second guessing my decision. I know they think they are coming from a good place with their comments and questions, but it makes me think that they will always harbor resentment towards him. Sometimes I feel like I’m not honoring our relationship when I politely listen to their comments. What would you recommend on handling this unsolicited feedback?