I am finding any model with “obligation” as my feeling turns out to be a negative experience, in my opinion.

Would it be safe to say, I need to shift models when I find obligation in the F line before proceeding with certain circumstances/ activities? Or should I cancel said circumstance/activity if/when I can’t shift my feeling out of obligation at that point?

Another way to say it, I need to get aligned with my decision or don’t go at all? Yes

Thanks!