Hi coaches,

I am curious, if I am supposed to take care of my own needs and my partner is supposed to take care of her own needs, and you say we are just supposed to show up and love each other unconditionally what does love look like?
I am thinking of a situation we are dealing with right now. My mother-in-law is living with us because she has untreatable liver cancer. She has been told she has 6-9 months to live. This is very hard for my partner and I want to be there for her emotionally ( I don’t know her mom very well, she has only visited us once in 12 years so I don’t have the same emotional attachments), so how does that look? The reason why I ask is because my partner is hurting and at times lashing out because of thoughts she is having , like I don’t care about her mom.
I am finding it hard to have another person and her two dogs in our small house so maybe it appears that I don’t care but I am just trying to adjust. So I spend a lot of time in my room trying to coach myself so I can show up better for my partner, but I also know I may never be able to be who she wants me to be. How is this suppose to work?
And then where do I get the unconditional love?