Spending money

I am currently spending $400 on business coaching $300 on scholars $100-$200 on therapy monthly. In addition to this I spent $1800 a month on my children’s private school tuition and $616 for private OT for one of my children.
This really upsets my because we don’t own a house yet. I am a real estate agent and I think I should own a house. My husband and I decided that we want to be more financially stable before we take on a mortgage. I keep thinking that if I cut down on my child’s OT, my therapy, scholars and coaching we could afford a house. Also I feel so guilty that I spend so much money on myself because my personal expenses are so much more than my husbands.
Can you please help me sort this out?