How to support loved ones when we see they are numbing out?

Hi Brooke,
My boyfriend’s dad died this past Thanksgiving and I see the ways in which he’s numbing out his grief (overdrinking, overeating, chain smoking, spending hours watching TV) instead of processing it. This pattern is pretty consistent with how he has dealt with stress throughout our relationship.

He is totally supportive of me being in the SCS program and knows that I’m working through a lot of my issues with overeating and overdrinking. He knows I won’t be participating when he overeats and overdrinks and doesn’t pressure me to do so.

How can I be supportive for him through this difficult time without being super judgmental? It’s really hard for me to sit by with all of this great information I’m learning and practicing and not offer unsolicited advice.

Thanks! Lynn