I recently moved to a new city, and a person I used to know in college suggested I meet up with one of her friends, so I could get to know someone in the area. I have met with this new person a few times. We actually get along very well and she is very kind.

But, I find myself longing for friends that are on the same wavelength as me in terms of ambition and “impossible goal” striving. She’s not that, and I don’t really want to spend time with this person anymore when I could either be spending it trying to achieve my goals or around people who also want a better life.

I feel guilty that I don’t want to be her friend anymore since she did absolutely nothing wrong and I don’t want to judge her unfairly. I’ve heard Brooke say on the podcast before that you don’t necessarily have to have a big “break-up talk” with a friend, but this person is texting me wanting to hang out, and I’m feeling a lot of pressure. How do I deal with this?