Trying to get them to love you more?

On Day 4 it says, Do you try to get them to love you more for your sake? Would you mind to give a couple of examples?

I’m thinking about my relationship with my boyfriend. I can’t think of a way I try to get him to love me more, but there are times I wish I felt more secure in his love. I am working on my thinking, which is good. I don’t think I do anything to try to get him to love me more, though. I know it’s my job to love myself, and to make myself feel good. In your opinion, when do we share the things we’d like to be a little different in the relationship? Is it more a matter of coming from a place of emotional adulthood? Like, we can make requests, but we need to be filling our own cup and not expecting them to make us happy?