After an eight-year relationship, living together on my boyfriend’s farm, and helping him open several businesses, I moved out. I have been on my own for two years now. During those two years, my boyfriend and I have maintained an on-again/off-again relationship. This year he has given me an ultimatum requesting that I move back and help with running the farm and businesses.

My problem is that I see the upsides/downfalls to both scenarios, going back or staying where I am. I can’t seem to figure out what I want to do with my life. He has dreams and visions for the farm, but I don’t have any dreams or visions of my own. To go back will require a lot of work physical work on my part. I’m not afraid of working hard, but I just don’t know if following his dream is my dream.

I just feel very confused.